You matched. How do you two fit?
How Do We Fit? is a mutual vibe-check for two people who just matched on a dating app. Each of you says what you need, you answer each other, and you both get an honest read on how your needs fit, before days of chatting.
Free while in private preview. We use your address only to tell you when you can try it, and note the country you sign up from.
How it works
Find out what matters, without the awkward questions.
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Build your vibe-check, once
A short conversation with an AI interviewer about what matters to you: what you're looking for, where you won't bend, what a good relationship feels like. From it we put together your vibe-check, a short set of questions for your matches: mostly established ones chosen to match what you said, plus a few written for you. You look it over, then share it with one link.
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Send the link to a match
They answer with no account, and get a short reflection on themselves for free. You get a report on how they fit your needs, and they can see exactly what it says.
About 10 minutes, or a 3-minute quick check -
They build theirs, and you answer it
Your match can have the same short conversation and get a vibe-check of their own. You answer it, the same way they answered yours. They get the same kind of report about you that you got about them.
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You both get the in-depth pair report
If you answered each other in step 3, How Do We Fit? writes the in-depth report. The same for both of you: how your needs fit in each direction, what may rub, and what's worth talking about when you meet.
It opens when you both choose to open it
What you get
Words, not scores.
No percentages, no ratings, no rankings of people. A report says how well your needs fit, what could get in the way, and how sure it is.
Low fit means you want different things. Neither of you is lacking, and finding out early is good for both of you.
The Steady Adventurers shared life goals, different rhythms
Where you line up
You both want children, and you both want to stay close to family.
Worth talking about
After a long week, Phoebe tends to recharge alone and Joe with people. Agree how each of you will say “I need an evening to myself” so it doesn't read as distance.
For the first date
What does a good, ordinary Tuesday look like for each of you?
Reports are written by AI from both people's answers, and say so. Treat them as a starting point, not a conclusion.
What it is, and what it isn't
An invitation, never an exam.
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Fit, not qualification
It describes how two people's needs fit together. It never says whether someone is good enough.
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Honest about what a questionnaire can do
Nobody can predict chemistry from answers, and we don't claim to. What answers can do is bring out the things that matter early: children, how you live, what you value, how you each handle closeness and conflict.
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You see what they see
Whatever one of you can read about the other, the other can read too. Soft spots and worries stay with the person they belong to.
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Mutual by design
The pair report exists only when you've both answered each other and both chosen to open it. Either of you can take it back.
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Not therapy, not a diagnosis
No labels and no diagnoses, for you or anyone else. A report uses everyday words for what may happen between the two of you, and says what tends to help.
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Not a dating app
No profiles to browse, no swiping. It works alongside whichever app you matched on, through a link.
Privacy and price
The rules we build by.
Your answers are yours
- For adults only, and only with each person's clear consent.
- You answer about yourself. Nobody can answer about someone else.
- Never asked or guessed: ethnicity, health, body, disability or orientation.
- Yours to delete at any time.
- No ads. No selling of data.
Free now, the price of a coffee later
During the preview everything is free.
Afterwards, these stay free:
- building your vibe-check
- the short reflection on yourself
- the report from a quick check
The in-depth pair report will cost about a coffee. Either of you can pay, and it opens for both.
Private preview
Want to try it with your next match?
We're letting people in a few at a time. Leave your email and we'll write when there's room. Once you're in, your matches don't wait: anyone you send your link to can answer it and build their own after that.
Therapist, researcher or journalist? Write to us at contact@howdowefit.com